October 25 2010 and my phone rings....."Unknown Number", my hands start to sweat because I think I know who it is. Could it be?? Yes, Its Michalina from Frank Adoption and she has news.
I seems the judge has accepted our dossier ! I cried and cried and could not believe it. She ordered the boys' paperwork to be started and it seemed "unprecedented" as Michalina put it, that the judge wanted NO updates on paperwork. Really !!???
NO. Michalina calls me about a half hour later and says, sorry I was wrong. Just a few documents need to be updated.
So I rushed home to start my docs. No problems, I got this covered. I have become the document queen !
If all goes well we should travel by the end of Nov and have a court date for 1st week of Dec.
YES !! I want my boys home by Christmas !
But, I always proceed with caution because that has been my experience. So right now I do the paperwork and hold my breathe !
Asia/Europe Continental Border
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Friday, October 15, 2010
Things I am thankful for.....
As I wait for the arrival of my boys during the longest pregnancy on record [ok- not to you AP out there it isn't !], I read articles and books on bonding, adjusting, etc. There is a great book called "Twenty things your adopted child would like you to know." Now here is a book for me, a list. I love lists ! I live by them and my husband says it is because I am OCD. Ok, Maybe I am a little. But lists seem to organize my life and when books give me rules and lists to follow, it makes it very black and white. So I read the book and I must admit that there is not one complete list, darn ! But, it is full of great information.
One of the things that I am very thankful for is that we have a lot of information on the twins' birth mother and family. Many families that adopt internationally never have much or any information at all to share with their children, should the questions ever arise. We have names, ages, DOB, and cities for all family members. It will be kept hidden away in our safe and someday, should our boys want to find their birth mother or another family member in Russia, I will hand it over. It is their right, it is their past and it is their history.
I was never one who believed in not telling children the truth. Children can handle a lot more than we give them credit for. Not answering questions about adoption or their past may create questions in their own mind about who they are and where they came from. I agreed with almost all the points made in the book. It is ok for a child to feel different from you, they are. We all are. Their history is their heritage and they are luck enough to have more than one.
I don't judge their birth mother, but rather I thank her. I would not have this beautiful gift she has given me if not for the decision she made almost 22 months ago. I do wonder if she thinks about the boys, wonders where they are, how they are or how they are growing. These are the thoughts that I plan on sharing with my boys someday and I welcome any questions they may have.
When children are left in the dark, they live in the dark and that's not a friendly place to be. I don't ever want my boys to feel they were unwanted by their birth mom. They were wanted and that's why she brought them to this world, so we could have two wonderful boys as our only children. They are extensions of her and will become extensions of us as well.
"A child is a miraculous gift from God, no matter how one receives it. Some are given the ability bear them, others the ability to rear them."
This quote is so true. I felt I was always ready and able to handle motherhood, but for God's reasons I was unable to bear my own children. I would like to assume that His reason was because these boys were waiting for me, somewhere in the future that He could see and I couldn't. he understood and now I understand. The pain all makes sense to me.
"Somehow destiny comes into play. These children end up with you and you end up with them. It's something quite magical." Nicole Kidman, Adoptive parent
How could we ever appreciate the sunshine if we never had any cold rainy days? We wonder why pain, suffering and trial come to us. Some more than others. But if the road was smooth and easy would we really appreciate the finish as much? The stroll would be nice and sunny and relaxing, so who cares when it ends?! Sometimes that mountain has to be treachurous in order to really understand the view from the top of it.
"It has been said that adoption is more like a marriage than a birth: two (or more) individuals, each with their own unique mix of needs, patterns, and genetic history, coming together with love, hope, and commitment for a joint future. You become a family not because you share the same genes, but because you share love for each other." Joan McNamara, Adoptive parent
I suupose adoption is like a marriage in so many ways. Much the way I found my wonderful husband Joe after many years of heartache, I also found my boys. "God Bless the Broken Road that led me straight to you. "
Again, I am thankful. Thankful to my family for their support, thankful to the orphange for taking care of my boys while I am away, thankful for all the coordinators that work hard to bring families together and most of all; thankful for a very difficult decision Pasha and Sasha's birth mother made.
"If you love some one unconditionally and with your whole heart, than you will do what is best for them not you. I have never learned a harder lesson than giving my child up for adoption and I probably never will." Anonymous Birth Mother
One of the things that I am very thankful for is that we have a lot of information on the twins' birth mother and family. Many families that adopt internationally never have much or any information at all to share with their children, should the questions ever arise. We have names, ages, DOB, and cities for all family members. It will be kept hidden away in our safe and someday, should our boys want to find their birth mother or another family member in Russia, I will hand it over. It is their right, it is their past and it is their history.
I was never one who believed in not telling children the truth. Children can handle a lot more than we give them credit for. Not answering questions about adoption or their past may create questions in their own mind about who they are and where they came from. I agreed with almost all the points made in the book. It is ok for a child to feel different from you, they are. We all are. Their history is their heritage and they are luck enough to have more than one.
I don't judge their birth mother, but rather I thank her. I would not have this beautiful gift she has given me if not for the decision she made almost 22 months ago. I do wonder if she thinks about the boys, wonders where they are, how they are or how they are growing. These are the thoughts that I plan on sharing with my boys someday and I welcome any questions they may have.
When children are left in the dark, they live in the dark and that's not a friendly place to be. I don't ever want my boys to feel they were unwanted by their birth mom. They were wanted and that's why she brought them to this world, so we could have two wonderful boys as our only children. They are extensions of her and will become extensions of us as well.
"A child is a miraculous gift from God, no matter how one receives it. Some are given the ability bear them, others the ability to rear them."
This quote is so true. I felt I was always ready and able to handle motherhood, but for God's reasons I was unable to bear my own children. I would like to assume that His reason was because these boys were waiting for me, somewhere in the future that He could see and I couldn't. he understood and now I understand. The pain all makes sense to me.
"Somehow destiny comes into play. These children end up with you and you end up with them. It's something quite magical." Nicole Kidman, Adoptive parent
How could we ever appreciate the sunshine if we never had any cold rainy days? We wonder why pain, suffering and trial come to us. Some more than others. But if the road was smooth and easy would we really appreciate the finish as much? The stroll would be nice and sunny and relaxing, so who cares when it ends?! Sometimes that mountain has to be treachurous in order to really understand the view from the top of it.
"It has been said that adoption is more like a marriage than a birth: two (or more) individuals, each with their own unique mix of needs, patterns, and genetic history, coming together with love, hope, and commitment for a joint future. You become a family not because you share the same genes, but because you share love for each other." Joan McNamara, Adoptive parent
I suupose adoption is like a marriage in so many ways. Much the way I found my wonderful husband Joe after many years of heartache, I also found my boys. "God Bless the Broken Road that led me straight to you. "
Again, I am thankful. Thankful to my family for their support, thankful to the orphange for taking care of my boys while I am away, thankful for all the coordinators that work hard to bring families together and most of all; thankful for a very difficult decision Pasha and Sasha's birth mother made.
"If you love some one unconditionally and with your whole heart, than you will do what is best for them not you. I have never learned a harder lesson than giving my child up for adoption and I probably never will." Anonymous Birth Mother
Friday, October 8, 2010
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Another Stressful Week
It seems that the document that I have repeatedly tried to obtain from the Board of Social Workers arrived a few weeks ago. You will remember my post about being a pain in the @%#. Well, I quickly scanned it and then sent it off to be Apostilled and then sent it off to Russia, another $101.95.
Olga send me an email Thursday 10/1, the License number was whited out and written over and the date the notary commission expires was written over by hand. REALLY !!!!
I quickly looked at the copy that I scanned into my computer, she was right !
I wrote a nasty gram on Friday 10/2 to the Director at the Board of Social Workers and told him that he not only cost me another week, but $40 in Apostilled and UPS and $102 in a DHL to Russia. I could not believe that a licensed professional agency would white out a legal document and hand write over a notary expiration date !
Luckily, I quickly get a repsonse from the Director apologizing for what has happened and getting right on another notarized copy. He did just that and sent it Saturday Delivery (which was nice of him). THe only problem is that I still had to get an Apostille because he used a different notary in his office ! UGH ! So much for saving another $40. So here I wait for the document, again, this document has been received 5 times now ! I will send it off to Olga, AGAIN, and wait, AGAIN !!
On a good note, I did get an awesome Dutalier Rocker Glider for the boys' room. Comfy !
Olga send me an email Thursday 10/1, the License number was whited out and written over and the date the notary commission expires was written over by hand. REALLY !!!!
I quickly looked at the copy that I scanned into my computer, she was right !
I wrote a nasty gram on Friday 10/2 to the Director at the Board of Social Workers and told him that he not only cost me another week, but $40 in Apostilled and UPS and $102 in a DHL to Russia. I could not believe that a licensed professional agency would white out a legal document and hand write over a notary expiration date !
Luckily, I quickly get a repsonse from the Director apologizing for what has happened and getting right on another notarized copy. He did just that and sent it Saturday Delivery (which was nice of him). THe only problem is that I still had to get an Apostille because he used a different notary in his office ! UGH ! So much for saving another $40. So here I wait for the document, again, this document has been received 5 times now ! I will send it off to Olga, AGAIN, and wait, AGAIN !!
On a good note, I did get an awesome Dutalier Rocker Glider for the boys' room. Comfy !
Monday, September 27, 2010
The Children's Place is really the parent's place.
With the final document en route to Russia and just the anticipatory wait for a court date, i did what any other nesting woman would do; I went shopping. Firstly, retail therapy is grossly underrated, it cures so many ailments other than depression. Think about it, you walk from store to store (exercise), you count money (brain exercise), you put multiple bags into your car (weight lifting), you encounter sales associates, ask for help and talk to strangers (social activity), and I did not even get to the endorphins that are released from the purchase itself ! Hey, whatever justifies it in my mind is of itself....justified !
We went into Pampolina, a European children's store with select boutiques here in the states. I look around the store I once loved and asked "where are the boys clothes? " the sales girl, dressed in an outfit that probably fit her 3 years ago, responds "Pampolina discontinued its boys' line here in the US, there was not enough of a demand for it here." WHAT !! REALLY !!! The clothes were stylish, well made, trendy and adorable and they discontinued them !! But of course the store was filled with the usual multitude of colors of girls' ensembles. So I dejectedly sifted through the 70% off racks and found a few items for Allyson for Christmas (Kathlyn's daughter), and although I was tempted to buy something for Gioia, my niece, I re-thought the purchase and did not. (It's a sad dad when an aunt can't spoil her only niece).
After Angie made several purchases for her granddaughter in the "girls only" store, we made our way to "Heartstrings"...finally a boy's section as large as the girl's section. As I looked at the adorable clothing all marked with 25%, 40% and 70% off tags, my excitement quickly turned to dismay when I started reading the price tags and the discount charts; after the sale the small sweaters, t shirts, pants and vests would range from $24-$48...ON SALE ! Ok, I am by far NOT a cheap person, but REALLY??!!
I don't pay $48 for a sweater for me if its a designer, why would I pay that for a tint little sweater, a quarter the material used in my sweater, with a tag that states MADE IN PERU (doubt they have strong unions there). I couldn't do it....I wanted it, it was cute, but ever moral fiber in my being said "you ARE NOT paying that kind of money for children's clothes." I looked around the store at the usual lineups of yuppie parents browsing the racks like they were at KMart. One little boy laughed and clapped as I made silly faces at him, he was obviously bored with the whole shopping expedition his "too old to have children" tired looking mother took him on. Her mouth pursed and soured when the child made bored sounds and fussed and she shot me looks of disdain when I made him laugh. Sorry lady, didn't realize you were a miserable B, no wonder the kids' crying !
So I made the small obligatory purchase in the store and grew depressed that I could not get my boys some decent clothes without re-mortgaging the house. Then we went to the next Outlet Center and I found THE CHILDREN"S PLACE. I remembered shopping here at the mall with Kathlyn and her kids and I remember so many of my friends telling me how great the items and the prices were. I walked in and it sounded like a choir of angels behind me went " AHHHHHHHHHH"...ok, not I'm exaggerating, but boy was I excited !
A full one half of the store was all boys and the signs and the discounts were REAL!! After filling my arms to the point of hurting, I found a mesh bag to deposit my purchases in and continued looking for more things to add to the bag. trying to imagine what will fit and what will not fit is hard when you haven't seen your kids in 8 months and the last pictures were 3 months ago. I hoped that cinch able waistbands and a sewing kit would get me through the few weeks in Russia. T-shirts, sweaters, socks, wind pants, sneakers, more shirts....you name it ! I get to counter and as the discounts mount, the woman says "if you apply for a card you get an additional 30% off." ....My usual response to the credit card request is a quick NO, but I stopped and looked at her and said "Did you say 30% off".... "Yes Ma am.".......Well my momma didn't raise no fool and even I know that 30% IS a way to get more people to get your store credit card. The obligatory 10% just is not cutting it for experienced shoppers like me anymore!
So when all was said and done and the card was approved my enormous bags of clothing for the boys came out to $116 total !! WOW !! That yuppie store would have given me a sweater and pants for that money.
So it is official...Been there, Shopped it, and I have the Credit card...The Children's Place is AWESOME !
We love Sales, we love deals and I have completed my therapy for the day.
Buying something on sale is a very special feeling. In fact, the less I pay for something, the more it is worth to me. I have a dress that I paid so little for that I am afraid to wear it. I could spill something on it, and then how would I replace it for that amount of money? ~Rita Rudner
We went into Pampolina, a European children's store with select boutiques here in the states. I look around the store I once loved and asked "where are the boys clothes? " the sales girl, dressed in an outfit that probably fit her 3 years ago, responds "Pampolina discontinued its boys' line here in the US, there was not enough of a demand for it here." WHAT !! REALLY !!! The clothes were stylish, well made, trendy and adorable and they discontinued them !! But of course the store was filled with the usual multitude of colors of girls' ensembles. So I dejectedly sifted through the 70% off racks and found a few items for Allyson for Christmas (Kathlyn's daughter), and although I was tempted to buy something for Gioia, my niece, I re-thought the purchase and did not. (It's a sad dad when an aunt can't spoil her only niece).
After Angie made several purchases for her granddaughter in the "girls only" store, we made our way to "Heartstrings"...finally a boy's section as large as the girl's section. As I looked at the adorable clothing all marked with 25%, 40% and 70% off tags, my excitement quickly turned to dismay when I started reading the price tags and the discount charts; after the sale the small sweaters, t shirts, pants and vests would range from $24-$48...ON SALE ! Ok, I am by far NOT a cheap person, but REALLY??!!
I don't pay $48 for a sweater for me if its a designer, why would I pay that for a tint little sweater, a quarter the material used in my sweater, with a tag that states MADE IN PERU (doubt they have strong unions there). I couldn't do it....I wanted it, it was cute, but ever moral fiber in my being said "you ARE NOT paying that kind of money for children's clothes." I looked around the store at the usual lineups of yuppie parents browsing the racks like they were at KMart. One little boy laughed and clapped as I made silly faces at him, he was obviously bored with the whole shopping expedition his "too old to have children" tired looking mother took him on. Her mouth pursed and soured when the child made bored sounds and fussed and she shot me looks of disdain when I made him laugh. Sorry lady, didn't realize you were a miserable B, no wonder the kids' crying !
So I made the small obligatory purchase in the store and grew depressed that I could not get my boys some decent clothes without re-mortgaging the house. Then we went to the next Outlet Center and I found THE CHILDREN"S PLACE. I remembered shopping here at the mall with Kathlyn and her kids and I remember so many of my friends telling me how great the items and the prices were. I walked in and it sounded like a choir of angels behind me went " AHHHHHHHHHH"...ok, not I'm exaggerating, but boy was I excited !
A full one half of the store was all boys and the signs and the discounts were REAL!! After filling my arms to the point of hurting, I found a mesh bag to deposit my purchases in and continued looking for more things to add to the bag. trying to imagine what will fit and what will not fit is hard when you haven't seen your kids in 8 months and the last pictures were 3 months ago. I hoped that cinch able waistbands and a sewing kit would get me through the few weeks in Russia. T-shirts, sweaters, socks, wind pants, sneakers, more shirts....you name it ! I get to counter and as the discounts mount, the woman says "if you apply for a card you get an additional 30% off." ....My usual response to the credit card request is a quick NO, but I stopped and looked at her and said "Did you say 30% off".... "Yes Ma am.".......Well my momma didn't raise no fool and even I know that 30% IS a way to get more people to get your store credit card. The obligatory 10% just is not cutting it for experienced shoppers like me anymore!
So when all was said and done and the card was approved my enormous bags of clothing for the boys came out to $116 total !! WOW !! That yuppie store would have given me a sweater and pants for that money.
So it is official...Been there, Shopped it, and I have the Credit card...The Children's Place is AWESOME !
We love Sales, we love deals and I have completed my therapy for the day.
Buying something on sale is a very special feeling. In fact, the less I pay for something, the more it is worth to me. I have a dress that I paid so little for that I am afraid to wear it. I could spill something on it, and then how would I replace it for that amount of money? ~Rita Rudner
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
It pays to be a pain in the *@$
I mailed the request for the LCSW Verification letter on August 30, 2010. The one that we received in June was expiring on August 30, 2010 and we needed a new one. I remembered that it took 5 weeks to get the last one and I believe someone at the ever efficient NJ Office of the Attorney General probably lost it, and when I emailed consumer affairs wondering where it was, I got an immediate response from the director. Poor Guy didn't realize how efficient I was [ he should have me on his team] and I saved his email and his secretary's email. So after a week I began to email, and email and email again. Yes it took 3 weeks but I got my document on Sept. 21, ONE DAY after a package just went off to Russia, but at least I got it.
This was the last "official" document we were waiting for in order to present to the courts. PHEW ! Yeah, don't worry, the shoe will drop and there will be 10 more documents to redo !
Then I get an email today from EAC [European Adoption Consultants], an adoption agency whole email list I am on from my searches in 2009. SERBIA COMPLETES ADOPTION IN ONE TRIP....wow, what a way to slap me in the face !
Yes, Serbia is very similar to Russia, although I have not done any research on the country. Mind you that all these easier quicker ways to adopt come about AFTER you have met your child and can't wait to get them. I would not change anything now for the world because they are my boys and I want them home...but for anyone just starting....AVOID RUSSIA if there is an easier way. They are not getting easier or cheaper, and believe me that I don't look for the path of least resistance; just maybe a road with passable lanes would be nice !
If nothing else I can tell you that the amount of money to redo things is absolutely ludicrous and it would explain why Russians are not the Superpower they are capable of being. Get the old communists bureaucrats out and let the youth of that country begin to run it and enter the electronic age and watch how fast it would propel itself to a higher standing in the world.
Just in Apostille "RUSH FEES" and UPS I most certainly over $2500. Now I don't mean to bitch about costs so much, because I would not chosen Russia if that was the only factor, but the absurdness of so much of this makes PAPs scratch their heads over and over.
But on a lighter note, God is aligning the stars for us. Yesterday Our LCSW verification came in the mail, Kathlyn [my best friend travelling to Moscow with us] found her passport after a 2 month search and the doctor cleared me of any problems with my breasts. [ small worry on a mammogram that turned out to be nothing....phew]. So it looks like 9/21 was a good day and hopefully the next few weeks will bring news of travel.
Kathlyn wants to plan a shower for us, but we discussed it and I believe that after we return with the boys would be a better time. First, we have no idea what size they are now or how much they weigh and Second, a party once we get home will give everyone a chance to meet them as well. I looks like we are going to stay in Russia and take a short jaunt to Italy during the 2 week waiting period between trip one and two. It costs $400 to go to Italy or $1200 to come back home......duh ! So we will porbably spend another week with the boys after court, knowing they are 'officially ours', then fly to Rome to meet Kathlyn and Paul for a week. Kath and Paul will then fly to Moscow and wait for us while we go to Ekat to get the boys.
We are planned, packed [ two new toddler backpacks to help us get Jask and Noah through the airport] a new double stroller at home, courtesy of Auntie Angie, bedroom, clothes, travel stuff, donations....you name it ! Now we just need to be given a court date !
"There can be no keener revelation of a society's soul than the way in which it treats its children. "
Nelson Mandela
This was the last "official" document we were waiting for in order to present to the courts. PHEW ! Yeah, don't worry, the shoe will drop and there will be 10 more documents to redo !
Then I get an email today from EAC [European Adoption Consultants], an adoption agency whole email list I am on from my searches in 2009. SERBIA COMPLETES ADOPTION IN ONE TRIP....wow, what a way to slap me in the face !
Yes, Serbia is very similar to Russia, although I have not done any research on the country. Mind you that all these easier quicker ways to adopt come about AFTER you have met your child and can't wait to get them. I would not change anything now for the world because they are my boys and I want them home...but for anyone just starting....AVOID RUSSIA if there is an easier way. They are not getting easier or cheaper, and believe me that I don't look for the path of least resistance; just maybe a road with passable lanes would be nice !
If nothing else I can tell you that the amount of money to redo things is absolutely ludicrous and it would explain why Russians are not the Superpower they are capable of being. Get the old communists bureaucrats out and let the youth of that country begin to run it and enter the electronic age and watch how fast it would propel itself to a higher standing in the world.
Just in Apostille "RUSH FEES" and UPS I most certainly over $2500. Now I don't mean to bitch about costs so much, because I would not chosen Russia if that was the only factor, but the absurdness of so much of this makes PAPs scratch their heads over and over.
But on a lighter note, God is aligning the stars for us. Yesterday Our LCSW verification came in the mail, Kathlyn [my best friend travelling to Moscow with us] found her passport after a 2 month search and the doctor cleared me of any problems with my breasts. [ small worry on a mammogram that turned out to be nothing....phew]. So it looks like 9/21 was a good day and hopefully the next few weeks will bring news of travel.
Kathlyn wants to plan a shower for us, but we discussed it and I believe that after we return with the boys would be a better time. First, we have no idea what size they are now or how much they weigh and Second, a party once we get home will give everyone a chance to meet them as well. I looks like we are going to stay in Russia and take a short jaunt to Italy during the 2 week waiting period between trip one and two. It costs $400 to go to Italy or $1200 to come back home......duh ! So we will porbably spend another week with the boys after court, knowing they are 'officially ours', then fly to Rome to meet Kathlyn and Paul for a week. Kath and Paul will then fly to Moscow and wait for us while we go to Ekat to get the boys.
We are planned, packed [ two new toddler backpacks to help us get Jask and Noah through the airport] a new double stroller at home, courtesy of Auntie Angie, bedroom, clothes, travel stuff, donations....you name it ! Now we just need to be given a court date !
"There can be no keener revelation of a society's soul than the way in which it treats its children. "
Nelson Mandela
Monday, September 13, 2010
Never Ending Vacation
Just a few more redos of paperwork...yeah right. The THIRD set of medicals is now being sent to Olga, with new ABMS certs- again, to the tune of $1400, to recertify the same doctor that was certified 3 times already. The new Golden Cradle License came in the mail-Thank the Lord, because that was holding us up as well.
I asked Olga and Michalina "why is my paperwork still with Olga in Russia and not in the judges' hands?" their response: "everything is translated and ready to go, they are waiting for the judge to return from vacation, which is now said to be this week or so. Then everything gets handed to her assistant, who then hands it to the judge." They are waiting for some of the New documents from the ones that expired.
WELL HERE IS A CLUE---If we keep holding ONTO the documents before submitting them, then they are going to CONSTANTLY expire !! Three sets of medicals, three sets of FBI prints, two social worker certificates, two agency licenses, and we didn't even START to do redo financials yet, because you KNOW the judge will ask for that.
I am going to get ONE more set of medicals ready, JUST IN CASE...that's because I know how these people work. They wonder why they are just barely surviving the fall of communism....HELLO...try a new electronic error !!
The children of these countries should be allowed to run them, because the old fart beurocrats certainly cannot do a good job with their love of paperwork and the killing of trees !
The Eastern European students that come to my town for the summer are very advance in computers and all sorts of technology, as they should be....its the old left over communists that can't seem to get a grip. Maybe adoptions in Russia will be better in 20 years when these artifacts of the system die off slowly.
More money, more time, and yes...I am getting angrier at the system. There is NO reason for this other than a power trip from narcissistic communists. Meanwhile, these children (mine and many others) are sitting in homes not being given the attention and the love that they need to grow. Yes, Ekat cares for these children more so then other places, but that is no substitute for a home and parents.
When Michalina said to me, : we are hoping to get you a date by the end of Oct, otherwise by early Dec.." I freaked out. I said I am NOT waiting until December ! I will steal them from the orphanage !
December ! Then we get into the holiday crap that they put me through last year.
So, doing my pasperwork fast and getting it to Olga in June....meant nothing ! Don't bother ! because it will NOT be submitted as quick as you submit it to them and you will spend most of your time re-doing it anyway.
By the time I ssent my paperwork to her , I had to re do my medicals 2 weeks later.
So, maybe someday soon the judge will return from her never ending vacation. Truth is, you aren't sure if they are on vacation or if its just another delay tactic.
I asked Olga and Michalina "why is my paperwork still with Olga in Russia and not in the judges' hands?" their response: "everything is translated and ready to go, they are waiting for the judge to return from vacation, which is now said to be this week or so. Then everything gets handed to her assistant, who then hands it to the judge." They are waiting for some of the New documents from the ones that expired.
WELL HERE IS A CLUE---If we keep holding ONTO the documents before submitting them, then they are going to CONSTANTLY expire !! Three sets of medicals, three sets of FBI prints, two social worker certificates, two agency licenses, and we didn't even START to do redo financials yet, because you KNOW the judge will ask for that.
I am going to get ONE more set of medicals ready, JUST IN CASE...that's because I know how these people work. They wonder why they are just barely surviving the fall of communism....HELLO...try a new electronic error !!
The children of these countries should be allowed to run them, because the old fart beurocrats certainly cannot do a good job with their love of paperwork and the killing of trees !
The Eastern European students that come to my town for the summer are very advance in computers and all sorts of technology, as they should be....its the old left over communists that can't seem to get a grip. Maybe adoptions in Russia will be better in 20 years when these artifacts of the system die off slowly.
More money, more time, and yes...I am getting angrier at the system. There is NO reason for this other than a power trip from narcissistic communists. Meanwhile, these children (mine and many others) are sitting in homes not being given the attention and the love that they need to grow. Yes, Ekat cares for these children more so then other places, but that is no substitute for a home and parents.
When Michalina said to me, : we are hoping to get you a date by the end of Oct, otherwise by early Dec.." I freaked out. I said I am NOT waiting until December ! I will steal them from the orphanage !
December ! Then we get into the holiday crap that they put me through last year.
So, doing my pasperwork fast and getting it to Olga in June....meant nothing ! Don't bother ! because it will NOT be submitted as quick as you submit it to them and you will spend most of your time re-doing it anyway.
By the time I ssent my paperwork to her , I had to re do my medicals 2 weeks later.
So, maybe someday soon the judge will return from her never ending vacation. Truth is, you aren't sure if they are on vacation or if its just another delay tactic.
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