So the specialists tell you to log down the good times and not focus on the bad...here are a few great things we have learned and done in the 6 weeks home:
Bath Time is a blast...they love it. Noah was hesitant at first and now it's his favorite time. Jack thinks its fun and even hands me his hands and feet to wash. They especially love when I rinse by pouring the water over their heads !
Brushing our Teeth...or better known as ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh (make toothbrush motion with hand). Jack imitates this to a tee and Noah makes the ahhhhhhh sound. Noah can fight a bit on the actual reason we are brushing, which is not to eat the toothbrush, but it gets done.
Jack will let me brush every single tooth without issue (thank god) and loves to rinse !
We are working on the spitting out, but we aren't there yet. Oh well...small steps.
Eating.......well- let's just not go there right now.
The boys LOVE to be outside and I can't blame them for that. They got so little chance for it in Russia between the snow and all the rules of what they can and can't do. Besides, who the heck stands stuffed animals in the snow? and Why?
ok, ok, I'll stop. But they are playing with their outside wagons, picking up rocks, digging in the dirt and being generally boys.
When we do go the playground, the swings and the slides are their favorite parts. Mine too !
The stress is a lot. Some days are good, some are bad, some are better and some are worse. But we take them one day at a time and pray they will all get good soon.
Sadly there are a few people in our lives we have had to shut the door on because they are the ones that believe everything is fixed with "love". HA ! I was under that impression too, then I was struck into reality.
Love helps in nuture and nature, but it doesn't help PTSD, RAD, FAS, etc...and all the gamut of issues these children have been exposed to and have the potential for.
I pray that we keep collecting "good" memories, but I am very sad to have to "shut" people out of my life when a support network is the most important thing a person needs right now.
On another happy note, the boys are sleeping well at night. Very few "wake ups" and usually just for a few minutes. I do thinkk it helps that they are in their room together, although we did seperate them in bed now.
Jack kept waking Noah up for no reason. He felt "I'm awake, everyone should be awake.." and that method wasn't working, so Jack Jack got his own bed early.
Rain tomorrow and Friday, so we will have to find some indoor activities. I have removed 50% of their toys, in hopes that we can start to concentrate on a few things and play with them rather than throwing toys all over the house with no purpose. I guess we can try what the specialists say, which is to limit the toys.
Its hard when you have such radically different children at developmental stages who both need the same kind of care and attention. Its even harder with little support for you as a mom.
If you love some one unconditionally and with your whole heart, than you will do what is best for them not you.....
(That's what "love" is....not hugs and kisses.)
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